The Six Steps
It is funny how long it took me to actually integrate the Six Steps. And the more I release, the more I see perspectives I hadn’t seen before. I don’t want to change my slow-learning curve anymore, but this shows how something can be so simple that is easy to not understand it. So I decided to write what the Six Steps mean to me in this moment.
Step 1: You must want Freedom/Imperturbability more than you want approval, control, security and separation. Also: You must want Freedom/Imperturbability more than you want the world.
At first, I actually understood that as: before releasing, check if you really want Freedom more than your feelings. And that’s ok. Reinforcing that we are wanting Freedom more than anything else opens us up for releasing. But, more than that, if this step is in place, the only answer you can have for “Would you let it go?” is YES! If you want freedom more than the wants, how can you decide to hold on to the wants??
While asking Larry Crane for assistance on a dark period, he said something like: “That is happening because you are wanting your grief more than you want freedom. “ Then it dawned on me: This is a 24/7 step! Do you want Freedom more than you want the world? Can you sit down and only release for 3 weeks to go free? I haven’t been able up to now. Do you release for 4 hours then say: “Wow, great, 4 hours. I feel great! I’ll go out and celebrate with beer/sex/whatever”? If yes, you are wanting the world more. I know I still am.
What? Shouldn’t I be “normal”? Shouldn’t I enjoy a good time with my friends? Shouldn’t I go out with my girlfriend and spend time with her and have lots of sex?
I am not saying no, I am not saying yes. I don’t know what anyone should do. Releasing is not about “should”. But you are still wanting the world more, so stop figuring out why you are not Free yet. I know I am not there (yet), but I accept that I am the one that is missing this First Step. Not that releasing doesn’t work, or the world is not fair. I just think other things are more interesting than Freedom sometimes. And from what Lester said, you can still have it all after you go Free, and enjoy much more.
Step 2: Decide you can do the method and be Free/Imperturbable
This is the decision, yes, I can let go. What does this mean? This is the method we know. This is the question “Could you let go?” and the answer to it.
So, in step 2 you ask yourself: “Could I let go?”. If you follow this step and decide you can, what is the answer? Yes, I can.
One important point here, the question is COULD YOU? It is not telling you to let go, it is not ordering you to let go, it is just asking: IS IT POSSIBLE for you to let go?
Guess what? If you let go only once in the past, the answer is “Yes, I can”. It is possible to let this go.
“Oh, but I don’t know if this huge, terrible emotion will go…” That’s not the question! The question is just if it is possible. And the answer is yes. NOW, if you would let go or not, that’s the second question: “Would you?”. Refer to Step 1 above. If Step 1 is in place, the answer to “Would you?” is Yes.
Also, ask the question: Could you let go JUST FOR NOW? That’s all that is needed. Don’t go into your mind and try to figure out if that feeling will go forever, or come back in the future, or whatever else. IN THIS MOMENT, is it possible? Just for this moment? That’s all.
It’s only a decision. There’s nothing to do after the decision. Decide you can let go, and the releasing happens spontaneously. There’s something Hale said, I’m sorry if I’m not quoting properly, “Releasing is a decision to let go. It is not letting go. Letting go just happens as a result of the decision”. So, decide you can, and the process happens by itself.
Step 3: See that all feelings culminate in the want of approval, wanting control and wanting to be safe. See that immediately and immediately let go of the want (s).
Larry says that, if you want to go free, release the wants. When you release 1 ounce of whatever want you are working with, you are releasing 1 ounce across the board (agflap board). That’s the power of the method. You are not releasing a bit of fear, or a bit of anger. You are releasing all across the board, you are letting go of a lot of emotions at once. Millions of years of garbage going away fast.
What if you don’t know what want is it? You can’t go wrong. Just choose one, or release all of them, one at a time. Even if the want is not there, it doesn’t hurt to release it. It is normal for feelings to have all 3.
Step 4: Make releasing constant.
This goes to what I said in Step 1. Listen to Lester in The Ultimate Goal 1. “IT IS A FULL TIME JOB!” It is not do it 4 hours a day and them spend the other 20 hours suppressing. If you are not releasing and being your Beingness, you are identifying with the ego and suppressing. You have to undo years of doing the opposite. If you believe in past lives, then there are millions of years of the opposite habit. A little bit will help a lot, but if you want to go Free, according to Lester, it is a full time job.
Step 5: If you are stuck, let go of wanting to change the stuckness
Releasing is not only asking “Could you let go?”. Welcoming/Accepting what is, saying “Yes” to what is appearing in front of you, allowing what is to be are a powerful ways of releasing. Actually, they are all the same thing. It is just that allowing what is, everything that is now, to be, is easier to do in action. You just keep the door or window opened.
Are you stuck? Allow yourself to be stuck as much as you can in this moment. Love the stuckness. The resistance is the only thing keeping the feeling stuck. Wanting to change is lacking change; it is focusing on not changing it. So instead you hold on and it remains the same. Just letting go of wanting to change what you feel can be enough to release it. Allowing is so powerful that you can release just by allowing yourself to hold on to the feeling for a moment.
“I can’t let this go!” - Ok, could you allow yourself to hold on to it?
Step 6: Each time you release, you are lighter and happier. If you release continually, you’ll be continually lighter and happier.
That’s what took Lester all the way. If this piece of the pie is this good, I want the whole pie. You released a lot, and now you are really high. Now is a great time to dig deeper garbage and let it go, so you will feel even better. “Don’t release to get high, get high to release”.
The fear of dying is a great example. Don’t release on the fear of dying before feeling really high. The higher you are, the easier it is to release. Don’t stop because you feel good, go even deeper.
It is also a measuring stick. I use the Icap and love it. It really helps. But all you need to know if you are releasing is to see if you are lighter. When you are really high, ask yourself: “Could it get any better? Could you let go and find out?” And keep doing it (step 4).