I made some changes to the previous text, so it could be clearer.
BE NOT THE DOER
When we read this advice from Lester, a lot of us, including myself, can be thrown right into Wanting to Figure it Out. What does it mean be not the doer? Should I just lie down and watch TV, doing nothing else? Maybe just sleep the whole day until I die. Is that the key?
This advice is a very high advice that the mind can not understand. Why? Because the mind, or the identification with the mind-body we call ego, IS THE DOER! There’s no possible reality in the mind where it cannot be the doer. The mind was built to do things.
It was designed to solve problems. If there’s no problem for the mind to solve, if there’s nothing for it to do, what’s the point of it being there? There’s no need for it. It will wither and die.
The mind cannot allow that, it has to survive! It creates problems so it can solve them and justify its existence.
The body as a doer is obvious. It moves, it acts. Let’s see what the Mind-Doer does:
1) It disapproves. If you disapprove of something, you don’t want it to be the way it is. You have to fix it. You want to control what you disapprove, make it different. You want to DO something about it. And what is something very important that all of us can disapprove all day long? Ourselves! Our bodies are wrong, do something! I only make wrong decisions, do something! Everything I say is the wrong thing to say, do something!
The mind moves through the days looking for things to disapprove and change. And it is doing what it is supposed to be doing. Being angry at the mind is the mind disapproving of itself, so it has something to control and change! Disapproval feeds the mind, makes it more real. As Larry says: “The mind eats negativity for dinner”. It depends on that to survive.
What can we do about it? Turn everything upside down and begin to say Yes to everything. Give approval to everything. Give lots of approval to yourself and your mind for hours everyday, the whole day if possible. The more the merrier. This will start the process of dissolving the mind.
This doesn’t mean becoming a doormat. Discriminate! If someone tells you to do something that is not appropriate, first release if possible. Say yes to what you feel about what they are saying, say yes to them even though they said that, and you will be clear enough to decide the appropriate answer, be it yes or no. Then give yourself approval for the decision you made.
2) It wants to figure things out. What a great way to be a doer! You need an answer for something. You ask the mind. It doesn’t have an answer. Some wanting to change that you don’t have an answer is generated, some disapproval for the situation, going back to the first point above. However, it says: “Keep asking me”. So you get into a loop that keeps on generating disapproval and frustration. But the mind is active as it wants to be, and it is being fed the negativity it likes so much!
For some reason we believe that if we keep asking the mind, even though we already know there’s no answer there, the answer will materialize. As Larry puts it: “It is like looking into an empty file cabinet for something that is not there, but we keep looking anyway”. The answer is not there, so look somewhere else. Where would you look then? The only place that has an answer, the place behind the mind: Beingness. How?
When we want to figure out, when we want an answer, that is creating an intention to lack an answer (WANT = LACK). Even if there is a way to get an answer, we are instructing the mind to look somewhere else so we can keep wanting and not having. Remember that the mind is creative and literal. It creates a lack of answers, as you requested unconsciously.
When we let go of wanting we move into having. When we let go of wanting to understand, we move into understanding.
The mind is a database. The content of the database is our memory, our past. If the answer is in the database, you send a request to it, by asking a question to the mind, and if the answer is there it can give it you. Like asking what your home address is. It answers almost immediately. And then it has nothing to do and would shut up about that. By creating the wanting to figure out loop it can remain in the doing state, and have its disapproval buffet. Again, if the mind doesn’t have an answer, how can we get an answer from Beingness? By releasing the wanting to figure out, the wanting to have an answer. The “Ticket to Abundance and Bliss” in the Abundance Course is the way out of the loop.
3) It separates. The mind is an instrument of separation. It likes to separate and classify things, to put labels on everything. It likes to create concepts of right/wrong, good/bad, like/dislike, and so on. Categorize, divide, that’s its game. The mind puts everything in boxes, even people. Even ourselves! “I am a mother” “I am a lawyer” “I am a bad person”. Even very subtle things are wanting separation, like wanting to be special, wanting to be different, wanting to look different than others.
By wanting separation, there is us and there is them. And “them” is a threat to us. We want to be safe, but if the “others” don’t like us, they can hurt or kill us. They are “others” and we don’t know what they are thinking, we don’t know their intentions. But we know that if they like us, if they love us, they will not hurt us. So we want them to approve of us, to love us, so we can be safe. Now, if they don’t like us, then we have to control them until they do or until they are not a threat anymore. If we can put them in a position where they can’t hurt us, or if we can just eliminate them, them we are safe for now. We want to control them until we feel safe.
Ok, so what tools do we have to control them? AGFLAP! We use the emotions. Emotions are energy moving, it is doing, even if nothing useful is being done.
As the mind was created to separate, it is doing what it is supposed to be doing. We don’t like our emotions, so we say no to them and push them back deep into ourselves. And as they don’t belong there, they just want to move, they keep trying to get out and move, and we use more and more energy to push them back where they don’t belong and where they can hurt us, thinking we are protecting ourselves from them. Even worse, we identify with them and think they are us.
If we just say yes to the emotions, if we see them as just phenomena passing through awareness, they show up and leave. We have to welcome them, allow them to pass through.
Even better, go to what’s underneath, the wanting to control, approval, security and separation that creates them, and they leave in bulk, a lot of them at once. As Larry says, “When we let go of one ounce of wanting, we are letting go of one ounce of everything throughout the agflap chart”.
However, when we ask “Could I let go of this want?” many time we think “Ok, but how do I do this?” This is wanting to be the doer again. This is the mind interfering, thinking it has to do the “letting go”. And it is not up to the mind to do that. It is much simpler; we just have to decide we can. Letting go happens by itself. Be not the doer when releasing. Just decide you can release, and allow the energy/want to do what it wants to do. They want to leave, and are just waiting for you to allow them to leave.
How can we not be the doer? Get everything by releasing only. Effort is ego in action. We release and things come. How will they come if I don’t work to make them come? That is getting into figuring it out, which is doing. When you release, you let go of the mind content and watch things come. The body still does what it does, but there’s no effort. You just witness.
The mind-body-ego is the doer. And you are not it. You are that which is aware of it. When Lester says Be Not the Doer, he is telling us to not identify with mind-body-ego. You are not the body, you are not the mind, you are not the ego, but you have to prove that for yourself.
When you refer to the body, you call it “my body”. You clearly state that the body is an object you possess. How can you be it, if you are the one telling you possess it? Who are you that possess the body?
When you refer to the mind, you call it “my mind”. Who are you that possess the mind?
And the ego is just identification with the body-mind; it is wanting to be the body-mind. If you are not that, what are you?
You are that which is witnessing them. You are that which is aware of them. You are not them, they are in you. Be not the doer means “Let go of wanting to be the body, and let go of wanting to be the mind”.
Be not the Doer means, when you release, decide you can let go, and allow it to happen. Wanting to know how to let go is allowing the mind to interfere.
Be not the Doer means that the body-mind can function by itself, we don’t need to control them. We allow them to Be.
Looking at the AGFLAP chart, while we are in Apathy, Grief and Fear, we are into having. We are wanting to have things to makes us happy and feel safe.
When we are in Lust, Anger, Pride and Courageousness, we are into doing. We are being the doer, doing stuff to cover the lack we feel.
When we are in Acceptance, Peace and beyond, we are into Being. We are, and that’s enough. We are not something, we just are. Be not the Doer means remain here, in acceptance, peace and beyond. You are the witness that observes the doing and the doer. And you are no affected by any of that. That’s why it is called Beingness.
Just Be, and Be, and Be. Say “I”, and that’s it. You are, period. Years and years of thinking otherwise created a habit of believing you are the Doer. Certainly there are things being done, but you are not that.
How do we get out of that? How do we stop identifying with the doer? That’s the point of the Release Technique. If we are too identified with our problems and wants, release until it can be the way the way it is, until you are “Hootless” about it.
Could I let it go? Yes, I can! That’s it. We are using the mind to undo the mind by one doing only: deciding to let go. Everything else is the mind making noise, wanting your attention and wanting you to stop releasing and go back into wallowing in the garbage.
Be not the body-mind. Be not the Doer. And keep coming back to this question: if I am not that, what am I? Whatever comes up, ask again: if I am not even that, what am I? And keep going until the noise stops. Then you will know what you are.