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The Six Steps

Hi everyone,

As I've been listening to Larry emphasize the importance of understanding that "want" equates to that lacking feeling and that we must focus on releasing our wants (and thus the feelings of wanting/lacking) it dawned on me that the first step of the 6 steps instructs us to engage in wanting.

Step 1) you must want imperturability more than you want approval, control and security.

So I was wondering if anybody else read this and scratched their head with a little confussion or if it's just ME (my ego) going out of it's way to create confussion.

I kinda prefer changing the step 1 for myself to this:

"I must choose/decide to be imperturable more than I want approval, control, and security."

"I must make a new decision to be imperturable that trumps my old decision to be lost in the sauce of wanting approval, control and security."

I kinda like the second one best as it pays homage to GP Walsh and his "lost in the sauce" quote which I LOVE!

Also, since step 1 as Larry offers it expose a "wanting" should we release on "wanting to be imperturable" too?

Would love any feedback and insights of your own that you might have to offer me.

Thanks!

Diana

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Permalink Reply by Mário [Hootless Crew] on May 28, 2010 at 6:46pm

Hi, Diana

I will be answering the questions you sent me soon. I want to post the retreat and 90-days review first so you can take a look. I will be posting that in the next few minutes.
Anyway:
The mind wants. That's its job. It wants, it likes to hold on to things, It loves to disapprove and find problems and it has a great time wanting to figure out what it know it can't. Lester knew that and created the goals process because of that. Lester also knew that wanting Freedom 100% will take you there now. The mind, being smart as it is, tells us we want Freedom 100% when we don't. So, the metaphor that answer your question is this: You fall into a thorn bush. You are full of thorns all over your body (WA, WC and WSafety). So, you get one thorn (Wanting Freedom) and use it to pluck the other thorns. When you are done, you throw your Wanting Freedom thorn out and you are Free.
That's the meaning of step 1. I wrote a blog post about the six steps a long time ago, it should be in the blog area somewhere. But I didn't write specifically about this.
Now, about your rewriting of Step 1:The first one is great (sorry), but the second one is too long and confusing, the way our minds like. Notice that you are also referencing your old decision there. What for? You are making them more real that way. Also, the steps have to be direct, straightforward, nothing to figure out. Putting a metaphor there activates wanting to figure out. The original step 1 was "You must want Freedom more than you want the world". You could also say "You must want Freedom more than you want anything/everything else".

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Permalink Reply by Diana on May 28, 2010 at 7:13pm

Thanks Mario,

The thorn metaphor is good. In my mind, it's like deciding that the purest thorn there is the "wanting to be free" thorn, which I pretty much understood from Larry's step 1 I just got tangled up in his emphasis of not wanting at all. But I really like how you wrote about throwing away the "final" thorn in the end too.

Mário [Hootless Crew] said:

Hi, Diana

I will be answering the questions you sent me soon. I want to post the retreat and 90-days review first so you can take a look. I will be posting that in the next few minutes.
Anyway:
The mind wants. That's its job. It wants, it likes to hold on to things, It loves to disapprove and find problems and it has a great time wanting to figure out what it know it can't. Lester knew that and created the goals process because of that. Lester also knew that wanting Freedom 100% will take you there now. The mind, being smart as it is, tells us we want Freedom 100% when we don't. So, the metaphor that answer your question is this: You fall into a thorn bush. You are full of thorns all over your body (WA, WC and WSafety). So, you get one thorn (Wanting Freedom) and use it to pluck the other thorns. When you are done, you throw your Wanting Freedom thorn out and you are Free.
That's the meaning of step 1. I wrote a blog post about the six steps a long time ago, it should be in the blog area somewhere. But I didn't write specifically about this.
Now, about your rewriting of Step 1:The first one is great (sorry), but the second one is too long and confusing, the way our minds like. Notice that you are also referencing your old decision there. What for? You are making them more real that way. Also, the steps have to be direct, straightforward, nothing to figure out. Putting a metaphor there activates wanting to figure out. The original step 1 was "You must want Freedom more than you want the world". You could also say "You must want Freedom more than you want anything/everything else".

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Permalink Reply by Mário [Hootless Crew] on May 28, 2010 at 7:59pm

Great! This metaphor comes from Lester I think, though I don't remember where I heard it. But the not wanting is also important as a target. When you release your goal, if you really want it, you have to release to the point of not wanting it anymore. I will use what we used in the 90-days program as a definition for being hootless: "I'm happy if I have the goal, and I'm happy if I never have the goal". This is the meaning of not wanting.

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Permalink Reply by Diana on May 28, 2010 at 8:18pm

I LOVE this Mario:

"I'm happy if I have the goal, and I'm happy if I never have the goal". This is the meaning of not wanting.
as being the definition of not wanting. very cool!

Mário [Hootless Crew] said:

Great! This metaphor comes from Lester I think, though I don't remember where I heard it. But the not wanting is also important as a target. When you release your goal, if you really want it, you have to release to the point of not wanting it anymore. I will use what we used in the 90-days program as a definition for being hootless: "I'm happy if I have the goal, and I'm happy if I never have the goal". This is the meaning of not wanting.